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Seneca · c. 4 BCE – 65 CE

To Marcia, on Consolation 13 ¶1 — Seneca

Translation by Aubrey Stewart (1889)

Seneca, To Marcia, on Consolation 13 ¶1

That Greece cannot boast unduly of that father who, being in the act of offering sacrifice when he heard the news of his son’s death, merely ordered the flute-player to be silent, and removed the garland from his head, but accomplished all the rest of the ceremony in due form, is due to a Roman, Pulvillus the high priest. When he was in the act of holding the doorpost and dedicating the Capitol the news of his son’s death was brought to him. He pretended not to hear it, and pronounced the form of words proper for the high priest on such an occasion, without his prayer being interrupted by a single groan, begging that Jupiter would show himself gracious, at the very instant that he heard his son’s name mentioned as dead. Do you imagine that this man’s mourning knew no end, if the first day and the first shock could not drive him, though a father, away from the public altar of the State, or cause him to mar the ceremony of dedication by words of ill omen? Worthy, indeed, of the most exalted priesthood was he who ceased not to revere the gods even when they were angry. Yet he, after he had gone home, filled his eyes with tears, said a few words of lamentation, and performed the rites with which it was then customary to honour the dead, resumed the expression of countenance which he had worn in the Capitol.
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A Roman priest, told in the middle of a sacred ceremony that his son had died, carried on without a break, then went home, wept, performed the funeral rites and put his composed face back on. The example shows that grief and duty can both be honoured, and that the first shock need not wreck your conduct.

Older wording

“garland”
— a wreath worn on the head during a ceremony
“ill omen”
— a sign of bad luck
“countenance”
— facial expression

Themes and situations

  • Grief and mourning
  • Duty and roles
  • Courage
  • Emotions and the passions
  • Self-discipline and habit
  • Bereavement

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